So it’s been almost a year since my son was born… His first birthday will is about a month and a half away and it feels just like yesterday he was just born. Looking back at all the pictures my wife and I took of him, I can’t believe how fast he’s grown. I remember after the second month, how we were putting away his 1 month clothes away and Qiao was crying because he was getting so big. But as fast as time flies, I can’t remember life before him.
Being a geek and a new father, I was curious if I would still have time for all my nerd hobbies, or would I have to give them up? I remember pondering on buying tbe PS4 and wondering if I would have time? About 3 months after he was born, I decided to anyway, (also about the same time AFTER my paternal leave was exhausted so I was going back to work… but I didn’t take off two months to just sit and play video games, contrary to popular belief)
Prior to becoming a father, I thought this small child would exhaust all of my free time, and while a majority of it has, I still take time to relax and enjoy myself. It does help that during the work week, my mother either comes over to babysit or takes him to her place for the week… so there is that.
I was talking to a friend who has been a father a lot longer than I, and he was stating how his time has become rather valuable but he tends to make the best out of it, still enjoying his hobbies, drawing comics, and being a full time father. He said that he’s just become a lot more efficient and more productive while at the same time having far less time than he did when he was younger. He doesn’t know how he does it, but he gets what he needs done, while still enjoying the things he does.
Parenting is hard work, and my son is a priority over my hobbies, that’s for certain, but becoming a parent didn’t mean that I had to give up what I enjoy… and I may have to cut back a bit, but hopefully when he’s older, I’ll have someone to enjoy it with… mainly cause my wife thinks my nerd hobbies are stupid….